Sadness is Essential

Posted by on Jun 3, 2015 in Thoughts | No Comments

My usual up-beat, positive outlook was somewhat marred last month when a rare and inexplicable blanket of sadness washed over me during a beach walk. Like many of us, I imagine, finding it an unpleasant experience, I first searched for a way to overcome it. And when that failed, I searched for a reason for it being there in the hope of reasoning with myself… nothing.

We live in a rich, On-Demand world where advertisers sell happiness as the only true ‘normal’ state to be in, and so along with that sadness came a feeling of inadequacy; as if something was ‘wrong’ with me.

In fact nothing could be further from the truth. And once I succumbed to the sadness – realising I was just a human… being – and allowed my ego to be squashed under its own weight, I slowly felt my ‘self’ come to my own aid.

Some may call it angels, some self-protection or their God/s. Whatever you choose to call it, I felt something cradle me in that moment; a soothing maternal balm that felt so truly natural, it bought a tear to my eye and a comfort to my heart.

But the biggest revelation was afterwards – after riding the storm of my own emotions and coming out the other side – I was met by a true feeling of relief welcoming me with open arms.

If happiness is the natural state of breathing in life, then, we also need to breathe out from time to time. There’s nothing ‘wrong’ with us when we do it; in fact I think it’s something we’d all benefit from embracing.

Constant in-breaths only make our happiness shallower and shallower. So if the emotion requires it, my suggestion is to embrace our sadness occasionally. Not to wallow in it, but to cleanse yourself with it. It’s normal, it’s perfectly alright, and moreover… I think it’s essential!