New Year’s Resolutions
My wife, Susanne, and I have a conversation that has become a New Year’s tradition. I always ask her what she’d like me to change about myself for the New Year, to make her life easier and improve our relationship, and she always answers: “Nothing!”
Despite it being the sweetest reaction, I always decide to secretly change something about myself that I know irritates her. Not because I think it’s necessary, not because I feel I should, but because I know it’ll improve our relationship… after all, isn’t that what we all want?
New Year’s resolutions are great, but I feel if we announce our intentions to the world, we lay our selves open to criticism if we have an ‘off day’ – which invariably happens on long term commitments. It’s for this reason I decide to make my pledges secret. It holds the power with me and if I do have an off day, I’m the only one who notices it.
More than anything in this complicated world I think we need to consider our place in it. So with that in mind, I’m also going to make one secret pledge with myself. A pledge to secretly change something about myself to allow me to be more open and accepting of others: my little contribution to world peace. Maybe you’d like to join me?